Tuesday, December 29, 2009

100 Days to Go!

Seriously? Seriously? I'm getting married in 100 days? Really? I'm pretty sure yesterday the count was something like 459 days. AND NOW IT'S AT A HUNDRED AHHHHH!

It's getting to be crunch time, people. There were all these things that I was waiting to do "someday". Like, I dunno, find a place for my family to have dinner the day before and directly after the wedding. Or setting up a meeting with our officiant to plan the ceremony. Or send in our newspaper wedding announcement. Or nag Marc to get his tuxedo altered to fit properly. "Someday" I was going to do all those things and many more. And now someday is here! Frightening!

I better go be productive now. Addressing some invites maybe? Although naturally, at least two of the people whose invites I've already addressed have moved or will be moving. People, once I address your invite, you are legally bound to continue living at the same location, do you hear me??? I only got 25 extra envelopes! Would it be bad to start handing out invites sans envelopes, just to save paper? Don't answer that.

Monday, December 28, 2009

My family bridal shower

Saturday was my family bridal shower! My grandmother, aunts, and cousins came over to a local country club to shower me with cupcakes and some nice gifts..

I got some Pampered Chef stuff include a stone pie pan and a deep-dish covered baker, some gift cards for Williams-Sonoma and Bed, Bath and Beyond, a Dustbuster, crisp, white towels and Dog Corn Holders. I'm going to start eating corn every day just to enjoy those! Between corn and the nightgown I got from my grandmother, that "covers it all".

Thank you family! I love you!

Friday, December 25, 2009

Bridesmaid dress shopping

My beautiful cousin and maid of honor Heather lives here in Florida, so while we're down for the holiday, we popped over to Nordstrom to see if we could find a dress for her to wear for the wedding. That's the good thing about having one attendant- major flexibility when it comes to what they wear. I knew what I didn't want, but was pretty open when it came to the idea of what I did want. With the help of a shopping assistant, we ran all over the Formal section and found all sorts of things to try on.

I loved the color of this one, but the ruffly cut wasn't very flattering in the tummy area, and the overall style didn't wouldn't match with my dress very well.

This dress looked pretty cute on the hanger, but on? No, no, no. Waaaay too Mother of the Bride for this young lady. Plus, I wasn't crazy about black in the first place (I already told my mother I'd rather she not wear black to the wedding), and this confirmed that. That big smile was part of our hysterical laughter about this one.

The color and cut of this was so great (I'm so into purple right now), but in the end, we decided this was more appropriate for a cocktail party then a wedding.

Getting closer! After we saw this, we knew long was going to be the way to go. So sophisticated.

The winner! Calvin Klein. Love the bright blue color, the flow, the length, the pleats. I truly do believe that she could wear this again (though doesn't ever bride think that? Allow me to labor under this delusion). And if she doesn't, I will!

Sassy shoes to go with! Jessica Simpson.

One more thing done! This whole thing is actually coming together, it's wild. 106 days to go. Lawd, have mercy!

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Family Traditions

Part of the fun of getting married is seeing your family reflected in the eyes of your partner and realizing, "We are all crazy!" This is Marc's 4th Christmas with my family, so he knows how things go. Here's his reflection on our annual celebrations.

Notice my leading questions during the gift question-and-answer section. "Undershirts, right, you want undershirts? You better want them, because I already bought them at Wal-Mart, you toot". What you cannot see or hear on the video is my panic when he says that the thing he wants the most is the UV lens filter- the only thing I haven't bought yet! I was going to, and then the price of the item went up $20, and now I figure I'll just wait until the price goes back down again.

Monday, December 21, 2009

Wedding Nightmare

I have the craziest wedding dreams. Last night, the dream went as follows- first, I was serving a homemade dinner to my guests, and I started to run out of food. We had some of the desserts we wanted, but not all of them. Then, all these people I didn't know were showing up. I'd go up and ask them, hi, who do you know here at the wedding? And they'd be like, uhhhh, ummm, we know the couple. OH REALLY? Because I'm standing here in a white dress, and I do not know you. Do you know who else showed up? John Edwards and his alleged mistress Rielle Hunter. Pretending to be other people! Please, dream John Edwards, I'd recognize you anywhere! Then the dream transitioned to my being in a Gossip Girl episode, and Chuck Bass was there..... love him. Happy ending to a bad dream!

Friday, December 18, 2009

Real Weddings: Evan & JulieAnn

JulieAnn and I did theatre in college together- in our most famous collaboration, we were monkeys writing Shakespeare. She is a joy to be around. Can't you just tell from the smile on her face? Her wedding in Maine looked so laid-back and fun. Aren't those sunflowers great? The perfect flower for my beautiful, sunny JulieAnn. All photos by Joles Photography.
I also have to share just one shot from her trash-the-dress shoot (also with Joles Photography). How fun does this look? SPLASH!

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Changing My Mind on Bridal Attire

I made my bridal attire decisions early. Bought my dress in December 2008, and all my accessories in the following months. I imagined that I would have two bridal looks- a long-sleeved jacket and a veil for the ceremony, and a short-sleeved jacket and a fascinator for the reception. Individually, I love all the pieces I bought. But the more I look at pictures of everything together, the more I don't think the reception look works. The pieces I bought just don't go together. Or maybe it's that I don't love the reception look as much as I love the ceremony look, which is SO perfect. I'm generally a very stubborn person, and I don't like to change my mind, but I may just have to in this instance. One look is enough for a bride, no? I'll probably wait until the last minute to truly decide. This is the sort of thing I wish I had family in the area for!

Monday, December 14, 2009

Colors of the Wind

I got an e-mail from the aunt planning my bridal shower this weekend asking about my "color schemes". Eeeeeeeee. I don't know. I never fully committed to a color scheme for the wedding. I sort of took things as they came. Many months ago, a sweet girl on The Knot was offering inspiration boards, so I told her a bit about my wedding and the things I was imagining for the ceremony, and she made me the board below. That girl, by the way, shortly thereafter started a wedding inspiration-board blog The Perfect Palette, a blog I still have in my RSS reader.

I love the classic, traditional look of this inspiration board. It fits very well with my vision of our wedding ceremony- light colors, everything very natural, very earthy, but still very sophisticated.

That said, I'm not married (pun intended, yuk yuk) to that board. I'm incorporating other colors elsewhere- like our purple pom-poms, and our rainbow candy buffet (which I'll show you another day). My wardrobe is the same way- there's a definite foundation (black), but I like to bring in whatever colors I can. Pops of colors. POP. POP. And what pop will I be feeling for the shower? I don't know. It is a mystery!

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Exciting Wedding Reality TV News!

A friend from the UK was telling me about this BBC show that sounded AWESOME. They take 4 brides, and they all go to each other's weddings, and judge and rate the weddings of the other brides. I'm sure it's bitchy and catty to the extreme! And then the girl whose wedding is rated highest by her peers wins a honeymoon. I thought it sounded just FANTASTIC, but alas, they don't show it in the United States.

UNTIL NOW. TLC has picked up the concept and is doing a US version! I saw the commercial and started screaming, I was so excited. Four Weddings starts next week (though I think that's just a sneak peek, and full episodes start in 2010). Ahhhhhhh, I can't wait. I love wedding reality TV. Say Yes to the Dress, Happily Ever Faster, Don't Tell the Bride, and now, Four Weddings! Oh, TLC, thank you for this early Christmas gift.

Friday, December 11, 2009

Real Weddings: Kyle & Jess

A dear friend from college got married this fall in the Berkshires. I had the honor of being a bridesmaid. We had such a great trip- the drive up was gorgeous, the foliage was in peak form. Jess was in such a great mood- it's so nice to be a part of a wedding party when the bride is laid-back, soaking in all the fun and joy. All pictures by Marc.

A little pampering the night before.

Beautiful fall leaves.

The venue- which is a ski lodge during the winter months.

Gorgeous fall bouquets.

Jess and I bought green shawls for all the bridesmaids in Chinatown together; I think we visited every vendor to find the perfect shade of green. Totally worth it!

They say "I Do".

Group shot. You can barely tell that the bridesmaids bought their dresses separately- we all looked for short, chocolate brown dresses, and it worked out great. Mine was $50 at Century 21.

First Dance.

Marc never met a cake he didn't like.

Cutting the cake.

Cutting a rug!

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

The thing about babies

I just found out that my aunt is hosting a bridal shower luncheon for me in Florida when I'm home visiting the family. Yay! That'll be nice- just a small group of the ladies of the family, and possibly a friend or two. I mentioned to my mother that a friend has a baby about the same age as my cousin's baby, and that they could play together (or, more likely, stare at each other), but my mother said, Oh, well, there won't be any babies at the shower, they aren't invited.

Lil' cousin and me!

I forget that a lot of people keep wedding events child-free. Our church is very laid-back about children. We don't even have childcare during the Sunday service, so you often hear little noises throughout the service. I've gotten used to it. We never thought about not inviting children to our wedding. For starters, we really don't know all that many small children. It would be one thing if we knew dozens, but of all the guests on our list, there were only 5-10 little children (and I define little as "anyone not yet practiced at sitting still for an hour"). We're having an afternoon wedding with a dessert reception, so there's no big formal to-do for a child to ruin. And honestly, it's not little babies who are the biggest trouble-makers. It's toddlers. A baby sits on a lap, sleeping or drooling or chewing on something, and is perfectly content most of the time- and if they're unhappy, whatever, you run them out of the room. A toddler, no matter what mood they're in, wants to run around and bang cars on the pews and talk loud. I see a lot of people worrying about babies on message boards, but if you're going to choose to focus your worry, focus on the 2-year old, not the 2-month old.

I hope there won't be any major breakdowns during our wedding. But hey, if it happens, it happens. You can't control the weather, and you can't control a two-year old. Of all the things I've chosen to worry about (and there are many, the latest one being "Why are my eye bags looking so big?" and "Gee, I'd sure like some money to fall from the sky"), this is one I can't be bothered by. Worse comes to worst, I throw a tantrum that outshines them all. I'M THE BRIDE I'M THE BRIDE I'M THE BRIIIIIIIIIIIDE GIMME THAT CANDY.

Monday, December 7, 2009

A Wedding That's Very Mii

Marc's roommate got the WiiFit and the WiiBoard, so our past few Friday nights have been devoted to playing WiiSports. This is much better for us, I'm sure, then the usual Friday night routine of laying perfectly still, stuffing our faces. Actually, I did both tonight, and the game playing is definitely better. Though not after the face stuffing, that was definitely a bad choice. I had to lay on my left side for a little while before I was truly ready for game playing.

Our Miis!

I was thinking, what with all the viral wedding performances going around, why hasn't any done a Mii wedding? Put it up on the screen, have them do some sort of dance or activity? Think of that hula hoop game where you shake your butt around. That could be fun in a wedding gown! And after your performance is done, your guests could play with the Wii. Just thinking of crazy ideas for you, dear readers.

Friday, December 4, 2009

Ring Dishes on Etsy

We're not having a ring-bearer, but I still like the idea of displaying our rings in a special way before and during our wedding ceremony. Ring dishes were something I had never heard of before I started reading wedding blogs, but I think they are so adorable. Search "wedding ring dish" on Etsy for 10,000 examples.

I'm not entirely sure what I'm doing to do with a ring dish, but that didn't stop me from asking Marc to get me one for Christmas (asking people for wedding stuff for Christmas = killing two birds with one stone; I love killing birds). A day or two later, he showed me what he chose for my approval- clearly, we're a couple not big on surprises. It's generally a rare thing for either of us to unwrap a gift we didn't personally pick out and see before the wrapping. Fine by me, I like to get what I want! And he did such a great job- he chose something I had never seen before, the Hugs and Kisses Ring Bowls from BaileyBowls on Etsy. How adorable are these little bunnies? Ours will be custom with our names. I love the idea of having two dishes! I can see them sitting up on the altar before the wedding, each ring in its bowl. And we'll be able to use them after the wedding on our dressers, for jewelry and coins and special trinkets.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Pom-Pom Decorations

One of the first fabulous wedding things I learned about reading the blogs was the famous Martha Stewart Tissue Paper Pom-Pom.

I had a chance to go to a taping of the Martha Stewart Show (which was so fun, BTW), and they even have a few hanging in the studio! I knew I'd want to use these myself. They're such a cute touch, and the reception hall at our church has the perfect ceiling fixtures to hang them from.

I also like that they're so affordable to make. I bought the Martha-recommended 20x30 tissue paper from PaperMart (tried it with smaller paper, which didn't work so well), and some floral wire and a nice pair of scissors at Michael's. Total cost? Something like $30. And now I'm all set to make 60 pom-poms. Or, you know, a more reasonable number plus a full tissue paper wedding ensemble.

I ended up going with lavender for the pom-poms- I really like purple, and wasn't sure if I'd have a chance to incorporate it anywhere else in the wedding, so I'm glad I have a chance to get it in here. Marc, as you can see, is also very, very glad, as he models my trial lavender pom-pom on his head.

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Bit by bit, putting invites together

A sample of our invites from Costco.com (not any of our info)

I started addressing wedding invitations last night. Ok, so I only did one. That's a start! Maybe tonight I'll do one more. I don't get why they suggest starting to address wedding invites so early- I've seen it suggested that you start 3, 4 months before the wedding. You're talking to a girl who did 100+ Christmas Cards last year- it didn't take me 3 months. It didn't even take me a month! So, yes, I'm probably going to put this off as long as possible and then write a crazed WHY DID I PUT THIS OFF SO LONG post that will make you cry. Or maybe my slow and steady approach will help me win the race. It'll definitely help with my handwriting.

In the meantime, I'm also working on updating my address book. I generally do a big holiday card mailing this time of year (not this year, invites are enough), so my address book is in decent shape, but there are lots of new addresses to throw in there. I'm enjoying seeing how many different countries we'll be sending invites to- in addition to the US, we're sending invites to folks in the UK, China, Brazil, Canada, Romania, Italy, and South Korea. Looks like I'll be needing a lot of 98 cent stamps! Thank goodness for Shop.USPS.com. I bought stamps online last year for the first time, and I'll tell you, I did not miss wasting an hour standing at the post office one little bit.